honor each other

When we are feeling lost, confused, lonely and depressed, it is easy to pick a part other people. It’s natural for us to judge what is different. We tend to pull apart other’s flaws and weaknesses in order to cover up our own. It’s easier to point out their perceived imperfections than to look in the mirror. And when we do finally take a look in the mirror and evaluate the reflection looking back… we tear that apart as well.

Gandhi said, to be the change you wish to see in the world. If you want the world to smile at you… you must smile at it. I know when I am confused or frustrated I become judgmental and I pick others apart as well as myself. But I have to stop myself for a moment and affirm, “I see and honor the light within each person and they see and honor the light within me.” I tell myself that everyone is doing the best they can at this time… even if it isn’t what I see as the best.

You don’t have to like someone, but just because you don’t like them doesn’t mean you need to judge them. I may not like the color yellow, but my feelings for it remain neutral because yellow just isn’t for me. That is the key when dealing with people or situations that aren’t up to our liking… you must become neutral to them. The more you push at the object of your judgement the more it pushes back. It becomes a ghost mocking and haunting you.

The old saying, that we judge in others what we see in ourselves holds weight here. It is true at times that we see something dangerious and exciting in others actions and we judge them for it… they have stepped outside of the self imposed rules and regulations and they are living as rebels. We all secretly love the rebels we hate.

Lets make it a goal to honor the parts of people that usually irritate us. Let’s celebrate their “flaw”, their annoying habit… or whatever. It may not always work, but it’s a good thought to be mindful of.

Shaheen

© Shaheen Miro 4/5/2012

 

2 thoughts on “honor each other

  1. You are SO right, Shaheen. If we cannot celebrate someone else’s differences, then let us at least remember to respect them. The uniqueness of each being that exists is the proof that life is a true miracle. We all belong to the same species, and yet none of the 7 billion humans walking on the Earth is like anyone else.

    I always try to remember this in the days I am feeling bitchy! Sometimes I not successful, but then I do my best to not let my bad mood harm others.

    I only open an exception when someone else’s ‘difference’ is harmful to other in any way, of course. Unfortunately some people justify the fact they cause other people pain and problems by saying ‘this is who I am, I didn’t ask to be born’. If it is something you can choose and try to heal (like an addiction), then you should do your best to improve, and not sit back and say ‘love me or leave me’. I know it sounds a bit rough by I have alcoholics in my family and they have showed this attitude too many time. :(

    • I know it’s not always easy. I find myself slipping into a judgmental state of mind all the time.
      It’s easy especially when you are frustrated or afraid of something.
      I try not to get down on myself about that, as long as I am putting my best effort in.

      I agree that sometimes there are certain people who aren’t as simple to deal with.
      Addiction is difficult because it can affect so many people…
      but I try not to think I completely understand their situation.

      Lets just keep praying to see and honor the light inside of each other!

      …so good to hear from you by the way :-)

      Shaheen

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