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I have been contemplating this idea of self-love more. It’s so simple, and yet so hard to attain. Really being able to look yourself in the eye, and say… I love you. I love you, your flaws, your perfections, your failures, and your victories. It can be so difficult to really see yourself in all those phases, and still really appreciate who, and what you are.
I know I struggle with this. I know you struggle with it. We all do. It’s something that we feel at one time or another. Some of us daily. Some of us feel the struggle of self-love in waves. There are things that help make self-love easier, and other things will spiral it out of control and turn all our pain into very real monsters.
Here are 5 keys to help you on your journey to connecting and honoring yourself more!
Key Number One: Stay Committed to Yourself.
Regardless of how low you feel, or how lost you may seem; your commitment to yourself will be the lantern in the darkness. The simple willingness to uphold yourself, to listen to yourself, to do what is best for yourself… will put you in the right situations!
It isn’t always easy to stay committed to yourself. Sometimes you will let down your guard, casting yourself into something that you know wont make you feel better. But you have to try don’t you? Because you are brave and strong… and that’s how you learn!
Just stay strong! Hang on with all your might.
Key Number Two: Allow Yourself to Be Dark
The darkness is part of you. Don’t hide from your shadow, don’t run from it, and don’t be afraid of it. It isn’t your enemy. It is your friend. Your shadow allows you to learn so much about who you are, what you’re made of and how much you can, and will take!
Whenever you feel dark, just dance! Dance to whatever rhythm you feel. Whatever song you hear playing. Just close your eyes and let go to the beat of it all!
That is one of the best ways to learn to love yourself. If you trust yourself to dance you will feel sexier, stronger, more vibrant. You will seduce the dark!
Key Number Three: Learn to Say No
If you don’t like it… don’t do it! Do not feel responsible for anyone else if it isn’t for your best wellbeing. We spend so much time saying yes to things that we don’t really want to do. We feel guilted into living life a certain way.
I always ask myself: does this feed my spirit, or does it defeat my spirit?
If it doesn’t feed your spirit then you should just move on to the next thing! Don’t get stuck in the mindset that if you say no, you will miss out on something. You don’t miss out on opportunities that are good for you, by saying no to things that feel wrong.
In this big, beautiful Universe… all you have to do to get what you want and need is be you, love you, and smile!
Key Number Four: Daily Life Can Be Exciting
Every single day can be awesome. It can be filled with great things. Don’t wait your whole life for the right person, the right place, the right time… do it now. Live it now. Don’t only do what you love when everything else is “taken care of”. Don’t live your life for vacation, retirement, or the weekends.
This moment right now is perfect! You are beautiful enough to shine right now. So go out there and say what you need to say. Start planting the seeds of your dreams. And water them with lots of love. Because the truth is… you have time to love yourself!
Each moment you spend on anything… you should first take a second to love yourself. It’s easy to forget. But it’s a powerful affirmation, and catalyst of change.
Key Number Five: Self-Love is Self-Healing
You may not always feel strong. You may feel like you are losing a battle with something… it creeps into us now and again! You may not have the energy to do what you want, or what you need. But find just a little, tiny space to be good to yourself.
Because when you are good to yourself… you will also begin to heal yourself. You will heal yourself of all the pain, the upset, the damage, the loss… all the things that make you feel fragmented will begin to heal.
Some things will take longer than others. But it is all rooted in your belief. And your commitment to yourself… remember that!
Here are a few prompts for you. Post, comment or tweet your reply with #SelfLoveFest
Self-trust is a form of self-love. In what ways have you learned to trust your inner knowing?
Being mindful and aware are forms of self-love. How can you be more mindful and live in the present moment?
Acceptance is a form of self-love and the first step to taking charge of your life. What parts of your life could use some acceptance?
© Shaheen Miro 2015
Love is something that comes up so often in my sessions, and even in my personal life with friends and family. There is this constant conversation happening among people about how to love, when to love, where to find love, how to keep love, and on and on it goes. It’s all pretty power, pretty beautiful, and some times heavy!
Something that is usually left out of the conversation is self-love. I know… crazy right! We want love from other people, we want to give love to other people… but we struggle to love ourselves. But when you begin to look at self-love, you will find a pivotal point of power.
What does that mean?
Well, when you want something in your life (like love, acceptance and romance) you have to also practice those things. And the best way to do that is to cultivate a space in your own life for you to give to yourself.
You see, self-love is not selfish it is actually the opposite. When you practice self-love you are filling yourself up with vibrant, beautiful energy, and you are planting a seed of intention, to not only give love, but to receive love, to feel love, and to live in love. That seed of intention will take root, sprout and blossom into the world, creating a powerful space for you to share the sweet nectar of love with others.
Isn’t it amazing how simple that is? By loving yourself, you begin to thrive… growing into an empowered person. Growing into an authentic person. And by simply being you, in a state of love (our natural state), you can give unconditional love to everyone else.
Because without self-love you have no acceptance, and without acceptance of yourself you begin to have limits, and with limits comes your personal edge… and that edge will be tested so many times by people and situations in your life. If you make self-love one of your truths, then nothing can shake you when your edge creeps up to challenge you!
Here are a few affirmative questions to ask yourself throughout the month!
It would be powerful to journal with these questions, or create affirmations from them.
- What self-loving act do you do every day?
- Stand in front of the mirror. What do you love most about your face? Name as many as you wish.
- What food when you eat it feels like an act of self-love?
Join in the Self-Love Fest of February!
We would love to hear your thoughts, comments and answers!!
Tweet, comment, or respond on Facebook, and use #SelfLoveFest
Stay tuned for more information throughout the month!
© Shaheen Miro 2015