I am constantly blown away by the amount of time and energy people spend on telling other people how to live. It’s like people avoid looking at their own reflection by picking out the flaws of someone else’s. You can’t let your wounds and scars become the lens that you see the world through. We all have our ideas of how things work, the best way to live… but your truth may not be my truth and vice versa.
A good dose of advice is wonderful and I love being inspired by someone elses story and I like seeing the flip side of things. But you can share your truth with someone and not force it on them. When I was a child my mom told me that god is a diamond and that all the different ideas about god and life and the universe are different facet of that diamond… but it’s all the same sparkling jewel… she told me that we each find our own path to god and that no ones path is the same.
I believe that is life in general. We all walk our own path. Sometimes our paths cross, sometimes they run parallel, and sometimes we may travel briefly on another road… but in the end we all have our own path. You have to take what works best for you and leave the rest. You have to give everyone the right to believe as they see fit for their own soul. You may not agree that it’s right for you… but you should be happy to allow them to embrace their own truth.
Who really wants to live in a sterile, white-washed world anyway? Do we really want to look and act the same? Think of all the beautiful things we would have to give up if everyone was the same. It is sad and honestly, terrifying. We all have the right to be who we are, because that’s what makes this world such a beautiful and rich tapestry.
We all judge others, it’s human nature. But keep that judgement to yourself. Become your own person and fearlessly be who you are and allow everyone else the right to do the same. I hate that I can be judgmental… usually it’s out of love. But that is no excuse. The fact still remains that your life, is yours alone and that is the only thing you need to worry about. And I don’t mean that in the egotistical sense.
The key I believe is, compassion. We need to be compassionate toward each other… that doesn’t mean coddle people. Sometimes you have to be honest with someone, especially when they ask your opinion… but don’t let that judgment take your soul. Don’t own the actions of others… just own what you do. At the end of the day we are all doing the best we can.
See and honor the light within of each person, and see in honor the light within yourself.
© Shaheen Miro 5/31/2012