No Matter What They Say

I am constantly blown away by the amount of time and energy people spend on telling other people how to live. It’s like people avoid looking at their own reflection by picking out the flaws of someone else’s. You can’t let your wounds and scars become the lens that you see the world through. We all have our ideas of how things work, the best way to live… but your truth may not be my truth and vice versa.

A good dose of advice is wonderful and I love being inspired by someone elses story and I like seeing the flip side of things. But you can share your truth with someone and not force it on them. When I was a child my mom told me that  god is a diamond and that all the different ideas about god and life and the universe are different facet of that diamond… but it’s all the same sparkling jewel… she told me that we each find our own path to god and that no ones path is the same.

I believe that is life in general. We all walk our own path. Sometimes our paths cross, sometimes they run parallel, and sometimes we may travel briefly on another road… but in the end we all have our own path. You have to take what works best for you and leave the rest. You have to give everyone the right to believe as they see fit for their own soul. You may not agree that it’s right for you… but you should be happy to allow them to embrace their own truth.

Who really wants to live in a sterile, white-washed world anyway? Do we really want to look and act the same? Think of all the beautiful things we would have to give up if everyone was the same. It is sad and honestly, terrifying. We all have the right to be who we are, because that’s what makes this world such a beautiful and rich tapestry.

We all judge others, it’s human nature. But keep that judgement to yourself. Become your own person and fearlessly be who you are and allow everyone else the right to do the same. I hate that I can be judgmental… usually it’s out of love. But that is no excuse. The fact still remains that your life, is yours alone and that is the only thing you need to worry about. And I don’t mean that in the egotistical sense.

The key I believe is, compassion. We need to be compassionate toward each other… that doesn’t mean coddle people. Sometimes you have to be honest with someone, especially when they ask your opinion… but don’t let that judgment take your soul. Don’t own the actions of others… just own what you do. At the end of the day we are all doing the best we can.

See and honor the light within of each person, and see in honor the light within yourself.

© Shaheen Miro 5/31/2012



  1. Magic Mentha (@MagicMentha) on May 31, 2012 at 6:08 pm

    What a beautiful post to end May!

    I loved hearing this. I feel often that I get emotionally fused with others and worry so, so much about what they think or feel, and I try to, as you say, push them toward my form of thinking, even if it’s in an offhanded way it can be a way of invalidating their personal path. I don’t know what people need to do and they don’t know what I need to do. I think that’s why I’m working on trying to find that balance. How do you be authentic without being pushy? It’s a hard line to walk!!

    Hoping you have a WONDERFUL June.

    Much Love,

    • Shaheen Miro on June 6, 2012 at 11:29 pm

      I think it is such a hard thing to do. Most of the time our judgment comes out of love… and from our own desire to understand our own path. But I think the best thing to do is just be mindful of your thoughts and try to practice your own truth as much as possible. I think the key is to stay true to your feelings… and even if that is a judgment toward someone else you can express your feelings but dont internalize it. Thats what we do… we let peoples emotions, feelings and actions personally offend us…. thats what we have to let go of.


  2. woley on June 1, 2012 at 11:52 am

    I liked this too Shaheen. Being cirtical is a hard habit to break but it makes life more enjoyable.

    • woley on June 1, 2012 at 11:53 am

      Well, it makes it more enjoyable if you break the habit! I should read more carefully before hitting “Enter.”

      • Shaheen Miro on June 6, 2012 at 11:30 pm

        I am forever making mistakes in comments… because I get “enter” happy. What can you do. I agree… letting go of judgment is about calling back your own personal power. Thats the heart of it. But its so difficult.

  3. Bohemian Valhalla on June 2, 2012 at 5:08 am

    You always have such Wise words my Friend… I agree completely with your assessment… and I Love your Mom’s description of God.

    Blessings from the Arizona Desert… Dawn… The Bohemian

    • Shaheen Miro on June 6, 2012 at 11:33 pm

      Dawn… My bohemian friend. You have the best spirit… I know you are so loving and compassionate 🙂


  4. teresa on June 6, 2012 at 11:19 pm

    wow…Thank you so much for expressing these thoughts. Not only could i not agree more i’m trying to remember this attitude daily….not always easy but so worth it. Sounds like your mother was an exceptional woman….:)

    • Shaheen Miro on June 6, 2012 at 11:35 pm


      Thank you for reading this post. It is one of those things that I have to be mindful of everyday. I try to be gentle with myself about it… it’s easy to become judgment toward yourself as well. I just try my hardest to see the light in each person… We can only do our best 🙂

      My mom has been such an inspiration to me


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