“The sparkly lights never hurt me but they terrified me. I cried in fear, and screamed for my mom. My father called it my imagination and ignored it. Neither parent explained what was happening which made it scarier.”
The best way to be empowered is to learn and understand about the thing that scares you. So we’ll talk about Energy, since that is what the world is made of.
Energy is simply energy. Energy is always energy. Energy can take the form of many different things: clouds, houses, people, Jell-O, even thought-forms. It also can be the way those in the spirit world show themselves to us: such as spirit lights and shadows.
Here is an example of how we sometimes view energy: If someone comes into your house, and you feel strange and uneasy around them, then you usually will say, “There’s something wrong with that person,” or “I get a bad feeling around him.” It depends on how we feel about the person as to whether we think it is good or bad. This is only a judgment. It is not how the energy is. It could be that the vibration of that person is just different from yours, and that is why you feel something. But it does not always mean that the person is bad.
The same thing can be said about other things in life, such as paranormal experiences. The reason I say that is because our younger children have a difficult time relating to us in words what they see or feel. Describing their experience is still very limited, and they have trouble finding the correct reference for the situation. So, if they have seen a scary movie, or ghost story, then they know the feeling of fear. It is a quickening, or tense feeling.
Even though what they are seeing is connected with angels or spirit guides, there is no reference to it. So the only thing they can refer to is the term “ghost.” And that might be what they say and believe. (Remember, ghosts in movies are usually scary!) Something that originally did not present itself as negative becomes scary. I see this happen in many situations.
Now I want to talk about being empowered in these strange situations. In the physical world, we teach our children to be safe, and how they can protect themselves. For example: Your child might be at school playing on the playground with other kids. A man comes up and says scary things to the child. You have taught your child ahead of time to run away from them, and to say “Go away, stay away from me.”
The same is true when dealing with spirit energies or unusual vibrations of any kind. They may be positive spirits. But they may seem scary to your child.
Sometimes, children remember the scary movies and relate what they see to something negative. Then their imagination will create more of it. It is real to them. It is very common that the situation is confusing or misunderstood. And the child doesn’t really know how to react to it or describe it.
Talk to your child about being powerful, just like the scenario about the playground. Each person is “in charge” of what goes on around them. You have a say-so, whether you want to be around good energy or bad energy. Your child needs to know that they are empowered to be in charge of that. Even if they are good spirits, but your child is scared of it, or just doesn’t want it around them anymore, they have the power to do something about it.
What to say.
It is important to be positive and stay calm. Your child can say something like, “I don’t want to see you at night anymore. Go away now. Leave me alone.” They should say it very firmly, but in a nice way. If the child is too small, then the parent can help. But remember not to be aggressive or angry about it.
Through conversations with others, I have found that children sometimes out-grow seeing spirits. At least, they become less intense. I think it has to do with being involved with the worldly things of life. Other children embark on a wonderful connection and relationship with the spirit energies. This would be similar to conversations with angels or loved ones in spirit, which I consider normal.
About a year ago she complained that there was a little girl — she described her in detail — in her room, wanting to talk all the time. This was the first I saw of it really bothering her, but she is a pretty tough kid, and it didn’t take a long time for it to stop affecting her. She said she taught herself how to make it stop, and that’s good enough for me!
Difficulty sleeping at night
It is hard for some psychic or empathic children to sleep at night. Some of them are sensitively attuned to different types of ethereal sounds. It helps to try sleeping with the television or radio on, but with the sound level very low. This helps quite a bit: it creates a droning sound that masks the unnatural sounds, and gives the mind something else to listen to. Spirits are active at night, and the mind is very receptive after the day comes to a close.
Feeling energy drain
Being psychic can be energetically draining if you don’t know how to close up your energy field. Psychic and empathic children should learn protection techniques and intentions if they need to. They “pick up on” (or take on) other people’s energy and emotions. This can happen in the grocery, mall or at school.
Before going out in public, have them imagine themselves in a bubble surrounded by white light – it can filter the negative stuff, and help them feel safe. Taking on everyone else’s feelings can make them feel anxious, especially somewhere crowded like a department store. Many kids dislike going to places like shopping areas or large functions for this reason.
Be ready to recognize your child’s feelings
It is important to pay attention to what your children say. Take them seriously. Do not disregard what they relate because they are young. For instance, if they do not like someone or a specific situation, there is usually a good reason. They can sense someone’s energy and intention.
Let them know that they are in control of the things that affect them. They might feel they have no control over what they are experiencing. They can ask their angels or guides not to show them visions they cannot do anything about.
If your child reports seeing a ghost or spirit then validate the experience so they will continue to trust their intuition. There is nothing to fear. In fact, this event can provide the perfect opportunity to bring better understanding about the unseen realm and the concept of physical death and transition. You could research and read about it to learn more, together.
You and your family should agree if a spirit should leave and not come back. You can lovingly set boundaries with the spirit. Simply call on the angels of light and love to lead the spirit to a peaceful place in the afterlife where the soul development can continue.
I am now a 40 year old woman and mother, and my spiritual experiences have helped me to understand my own daughter. When she was very little she could see people or ghosts in her room. I was able to be understanding, consoling, and better equipped to help her comprehend, since I understand about seeing things others did not.
Your children will feel very empowered and confident when you support them during psychic events. You do not have to believe that they are really happening. But it is important for you to acknowledge that your child believes it. A wonderful relationship can be forged with your children by working with them during these times.
© 2015, Melissa Leath
About Melissa Leath
Melissa is owner of Off the Beaten Path Intuitive Arts, facilitator of the Professional Psychic Medium Certification Program, medium, mentor, and author of Psychic Integrity, The Respected Practice of Modern Day Mystics and Does Your Child See Sparkles? Help for Parents Guiding Psychic Kids. Find out more about Your Psychic Self at http://www.melissaleath.com