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My head and heart have been filled with so many things. Shadows and glimmers of light, blooming into stories. There is something in the air that hints at change. I see it outwardly… a big move coming, and a chance to see my life from a different vantage point. It is empowering to take a step forward into the unknown, and closer to the life that feels congruent with my spirit.
In some ways I feel like I am finally learning to dance, and yet I am still learning from my own inner monsters… but isn’t that the journey we are all on? For now I see a few things clearly. The moment to moment just makes sense, as long as I don’t think too much about it. “Just be”, That’s what I hear in my heart.
Here is to new life, and new adventures. I am opening myself up to the good things. I am taking time to let myself be with love, and light. To be with my dreams, and my goals. I know there is a lot of magic still to be found.
Now that all these changes are happening I have to honor when I can and cant do things. I need to honor when there is no need to write, and jump at the chance to explore a new idea. It doesn’t always make sense on the outside. But life isn’t about making sense to the outside world… it’s about making sense to yourself.
My prayer is that I can learn to dance, to move and grind with all the things that live inside, and all the things that the Universe is sending my way. The more open, the more humble, and the more grateful I am the more magic I seem to find. I guess that is grace. I affirm grace in this moment, in each moment.
Take a moment to feel the grace inside of you. Take a moment to affirm grace. Be beautiful, and be brace. Most of all spread your love to the world… there is so much need for this right now. It is so easy to forget that!
Sending love to all the Gypsies out there.
I have been contemplating this idea of self-love more. It’s so simple, and yet so hard to attain. Really being able to look yourself in the eye, and say… I love you. I love you, your flaws, your perfections, your failures, and your victories. It can be so difficult to really see yourself in all those phases, and still really appreciate who, and what you are.
I know I struggle with this. I know you struggle with it. We all do. It’s something that we feel at one time or another. Some of us daily. Some of us feel the struggle of self-love in waves. There are things that help make self-love easier, and other things will spiral it out of control and turn all our pain into very real monsters.
Here are 5 keys to help you on your journey to connecting and honoring yourself more!
Key Number One: Stay Committed to Yourself.
Regardless of how low you feel, or how lost you may seem; your commitment to yourself will be the lantern in the darkness. The simple willingness to uphold yourself, to listen to yourself, to do what is best for yourself… will put you in the right situations!
It isn’t always easy to stay committed to yourself. Sometimes you will let down your guard, casting yourself into something that you know wont make you feel better. But you have to try don’t you? Because you are brave and strong… and that’s how you learn!
Just stay strong! Hang on with all your might.
Key Number Two: Allow Yourself to Be Dark
The darkness is part of you. Don’t hide from your shadow, don’t run from it, and don’t be afraid of it. It isn’t your enemy. It is your friend. Your shadow allows you to learn so much about who you are, what you’re made of and how much you can, and will take!
Whenever you feel dark, just dance! Dance to whatever rhythm you feel. Whatever song you hear playing. Just close your eyes and let go to the beat of it all!
That is one of the best ways to learn to love yourself. If you trust yourself to dance you will feel sexier, stronger, more vibrant. You will seduce the dark!
Key Number Three: Learn to Say No
If you don’t like it… don’t do it! Do not feel responsible for anyone else if it isn’t for your best wellbeing. We spend so much time saying yes to things that we don’t really want to do. We feel guilted into living life a certain way.
I always ask myself: does this feed my spirit, or does it defeat my spirit?
If it doesn’t feed your spirit then you should just move on to the next thing! Don’t get stuck in the mindset that if you say no, you will miss out on something. You don’t miss out on opportunities that are good for you, by saying no to things that feel wrong.
In this big, beautiful Universe… all you have to do to get what you want and need is be you, love you, and smile!
Key Number Four: Daily Life Can Be Exciting
Every single day can be awesome. It can be filled with great things. Don’t wait your whole life for the right person, the right place, the right time… do it now. Live it now. Don’t only do what you love when everything else is “taken care of”. Don’t live your life for vacation, retirement, or the weekends.
This moment right now is perfect! You are beautiful enough to shine right now. So go out there and say what you need to say. Start planting the seeds of your dreams. And water them with lots of love. Because the truth is… you have time to love yourself!
Each moment you spend on anything… you should first take a second to love yourself. It’s easy to forget. But it’s a powerful affirmation, and catalyst of change.
Key Number Five: Self-Love is Self-Healing
You may not always feel strong. You may feel like you are losing a battle with something… it creeps into us now and again! You may not have the energy to do what you want, or what you need. But find just a little, tiny space to be good to yourself.
Because when you are good to yourself… you will also begin to heal yourself. You will heal yourself of all the pain, the upset, the damage, the loss… all the things that make you feel fragmented will begin to heal.
Some things will take longer than others. But it is all rooted in your belief. And your commitment to yourself… remember that!
Here are a few prompts for you. Post, comment or tweet your reply with #SelfLoveFest
Self-trust is a form of self-love. In what ways have you learned to trust your inner knowing?
Being mindful and aware are forms of self-love. How can you be more mindful and live in the present moment?
Acceptance is a form of self-love and the first step to taking charge of your life. What parts of your life could use some acceptance?
© Shaheen Miro 2015
Love is something that comes up so often in my sessions, and even in my personal life with friends and family. There is this constant conversation happening among people about how to love, when to love, where to find love, how to keep love, and on and on it goes. It’s all pretty power, pretty beautiful, and some times heavy!
Something that is usually left out of the conversation is self-love. I know… crazy right! We want love from other people, we want to give love to other people… but we struggle to love ourselves. But when you begin to look at self-love, you will find a pivotal point of power.
What does that mean?
Well, when you want something in your life (like love, acceptance and romance) you have to also practice those things. And the best way to do that is to cultivate a space in your own life for you to give to yourself.
You see, self-love is not selfish it is actually the opposite. When you practice self-love you are filling yourself up with vibrant, beautiful energy, and you are planting a seed of intention, to not only give love, but to receive love, to feel love, and to live in love. That seed of intention will take root, sprout and blossom into the world, creating a powerful space for you to share the sweet nectar of love with others.
Isn’t it amazing how simple that is? By loving yourself, you begin to thrive… growing into an empowered person. Growing into an authentic person. And by simply being you, in a state of love (our natural state), you can give unconditional love to everyone else.
Because without self-love you have no acceptance, and without acceptance of yourself you begin to have limits, and with limits comes your personal edge… and that edge will be tested so many times by people and situations in your life. If you make self-love one of your truths, then nothing can shake you when your edge creeps up to challenge you!
Here are a few affirmative questions to ask yourself throughout the month!
It would be powerful to journal with these questions, or create affirmations from them.
- What self-loving act do you do every day?
- Stand in front of the mirror. What do you love most about your face? Name as many as you wish.
- What food when you eat it feels like an act of self-love?
Join in the Self-Love Fest of February!
We would love to hear your thoughts, comments and answers!!
Tweet, comment, or respond on Facebook, and use #SelfLoveFest
Stay tuned for more information throughout the month!
© Shaheen Miro 2015
Hi Beautiful People!
The last few days have been absolutely magical. So many wonderful things have begun to come into being. I keep experiencing synchronicities right and left, and I feel so in alignment with the Universe. When things “click” like this it is surreal!
I had to stop for a moment and just take in all the good energy. While everything is expansive and in motion I have to be still. Grounded in this moment. Present in this experience. Being completely appreciative of everything that is happening around me.
Honestly… I feel drunk with gratitude! And really gratitude is the foundation of consciously manifesting. Gratitude is the heart of the law of attraction. If you aren’t grateful for what you’ve received in your life, then you’ve signaled to the Universe that you aren’t aware of the miracles in front of you.
It is so easy to get caught up in daily life. Lost in our heads, our jobs, or responsibilities. The chaos takes over. But gratitude doesn’t need big bells and whistles. Just a simple nod of thanks. A quiet smile. A little dance.
I decided I need to give myself space to be grateful daily. So I am challenging myself to a list of things I am grateful for each week.
I urge you to do the same!
This is the #RantGratitude Challenge!!
Join me! Rant what you’re grateful for. Each day, or once a week… Leave it in the comments.
Share something daily on Twitter.
Lets create one big vortex of awesome energy through giving thanks for the awesomeness of the Universe and our spirits.
© Shaheen Miro 2014
“The dangerous thing about love is you give a part of yourself away. You give that person a piece of your heart, and you can never get it back again. That’s the beautiful, tragic price of love. Even when it ends… it truly lives on in some mystical place. Time and distance cannot erase what was, or be shifted by what will be. Love is a permanent and ever-changing being. ” -Shaheen
No matter how this story ends, it began in love. I felt so beautiful in your eyes and arms. You took me to the mountains. You whispered me love songs. You danced me across rooms, my eyes closed, nothing but the scent of you and your heartbeat. I know we had a love that only comes once in a life. If it’s over now… it still lives on somewhere. Where I was loved, I was home. I hope that you know.
No matter where you go, whomever you choose again to love, just know that you were the one. I will always have a place for you in my heart. There will always be an invisible silver band on the ring finger of my left hand. And you will always be handsome and precious to me… even when years have passed. And when we are old, I hope we can hold hands and say… we are the best of friends.
For now we can be silent. We can circle around our feelings. We can touch faintly on what really is. You can say you are moving on, and I can say I just don’t care. I can secretly cry, and you can secretly be lost out there. Just know if there comes a night, when the day has been too hard, you can’t handle anymore harsh words, and you need to come home… the right side of my bed will be opened for you. Crawl in by the light of the moon and lay down your sorrow to me. I will love you.
I mourn the loss of love that was snuffed out before it could really begin. We were children in love… so much to grow and learn. We had the world in our hands. You threw it away. I know it was in fear, and nothing else. I know now I did nothing wrong. And I know you still love me. But why did you run from me. What could I have done to make you stay? Why did both of our hearts have to break this way? We had a love strong enough to brave the storm.
But I flung myself hard against the storm, and I shattered once again. I’m not really sure if we can leave here with something warm. Unless we remember that they flames of love never really die. There will come a night, when you slip out of your shell, and you fall deep into the glow of my eyes. You will tell me everything. You will fall in love again. You will realize what is missing. And you will want it back.
No one can fill us up in the same way. No one can see the beauty in your flaws. No one can love me enough to make me calm. We were supposed to be. We are meant to be. You are my everything… and one night you will wake up with a stranger and wonder where you’re husband has gone. And I will be there… somewhere trying to sleep again. Come home, baby.
© Shaheen Miro 2013
We came here faithful and wild eyed. Looking for answers as the smoke made rings around their heads. They were forgotten angels, forged in the heat and pressure of another storm. Beyond your memory is hidden a history far greater than can be told in words.
I lit a candle, burned it for 3 days to heal the pain. The color was liquid red and hot like the sweat that ran down your face as I was leaving. You were begging for change, and yet I had changed long before you knew. Why do they forsake the ones they love?
So they sing. They sing as the dark falls around them. A gentle cloak of raven black. There you can hear the words being whispered to silhouettes of strangers. Faces of marionettes suspended from memories. Make me up how you want to. Make them believe I was nothing and you were everything.
He wanted badly to touch the heart of the mystery. A dangerous soul who would rage against the gods. Fire could rain down. Prayers couldn’t protect him. There’s not map to guide you as you slip away into your own misery. Mock them as you run. They will taunt you. We can still pray… even though prayers are useless now.
If I can wake up and breathe again. Does that mean none of it was real? I might just be another memory. She said the white doves are calling to us now. We can walk on the edge of what was, and what will be. We can dance with the dead to feel alive again. There’s no shame in burning a candle… even if it can’t drown out the night.
I whisper one more time before its over. I touch my lips gently to the flame. Kissing the fire. Another form of passing. Wind catches light and pushes it into oblivion. A fragile soul is lost to the dark again. Snuffed out. No more light. No more life. I hope the prayers still burn brightly on the other side.
© Shaheen Miro
You burn inside, hot and sticky, as these feelings curl up your spine. That person enters your presence and you are melting again, trying to hold your soft parts together. You could be liquid fire in front of him/her. The desire makes you ache… it’s too much.
We all want something, we all long for something. It could be a person or thing… you reach for it, grasping sand, that slips through closed fingers. It is always coming and going, and the feelings are undying. How do you gain composer with such a fever?
Boundaries are essential. You can’t live with them and you cant live without them. I affectionately told my friend the other day, “you can’t have your vodka and drink it too”… or can you. At the end of the day it boils down to what feels right to the ego and what feels right to the soul and how you can discern the two.
I know I have people in my life who walk in and out and they have free rein, and sometimes I shoot myself in the foot for being naïve enough to allow it, but my heart says one thing and my mind says another. You never know what to say in those situations, “Hey old friend, I love you, but you’re hanging around more than I like.” How do you articulate that without coming off like a total jerk?!
Break down the situation into intention. What is your intention with this person? Do you expect to gain something for your lack of boundaries? If you let them do whatever they want to you, do you think they will eventually give you what you want? Are you afraid to upset the peace? Do you think something will click? Will they change? You can’t live your life waiting for rainbows. Hope is a dirty, nasty word because it implies that something is impossible.
Who matters most? Do you have to sacrifice yourself to make this person happy? Or to get what you want? To have that dream job? Are you selling one dream to attain another? Are you feeding your own spirit? You have to look at each situation and know who is the most important person in it… which is YOU. You can be kind hearted, compassionate and giving, and still put yourself first.
When I say put yourself first, I don’t mean in the egocentric sense, I mean in the most loving and positive way. You cannot give to others if you can’t give to yourself… it’s sort of like a garden. If you are growing fruits and vegetables to feed yourself, but give them all away before you get a bite to eat… you’re going to go hungry. Don’t let yourself go hungry. Love yourself. Feed yourself. You will be able to give 110 if you go this route.
Who is holding responsibility? How many times do we get in situations where we give so much away… for a person or a goal and nothing comes back and then we get angry, sad, and guilty? It happens all the time because people place their personal responsibilities in the hands of others. It’s the martyr mentality. People would rather let someone else be responsible for their dreams, hearts and happiness because if things don’t work out, if they are left broken… then they aren’t at fault. BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOURSELF!!
You can see from the other person’s perspective if you want, but no matter how many times you walk in their shoes, you will never be them. You cannot rationalize for people. You cannot get in their heads and try to figure out what you are doing wrong or why they treated you a certain way.
You control the reaction. I think the most powerful piece of wisdom we can all take to heart is, we are in control. You may not be able to change circumstances, move mountains, change peoples minds, manipulate bank accounts… though you would be surprised… but what you can do is control your reaction.
What makes you feel out of control? Is it when you don’t get your way? Maybe its when you feel you look weak? Or embarrassed? Or when you don’t have enough? Find your point of weakness and let it become your strength. That becomes you point of power and allows you to gain a sense of control.
If you are in situations that feel icky, sticky and bad, stop for a second and breathe. Ground and center into the moment, call your energy back and release whatever negative feelings you have toward the situation or person. You have to lighten your load so that you can be free to move and grow and fly to whatever places you want.
Write your feelings out. Write letters to the place that hurts. If it’s a person, then write to them and tell them all the things you wish you could say to their face. Let the venom out. Be angry, sad or crazy! The page can take it. If it’s something you want or situations you are in then write to that as well… give it a persona and talk about how you feel. Let everything out. Now burn it! Or Flush it down the toilet! Let the old go, you have no need to cling to it. You are releasing this place of resistance to create room for boundaries and protection. You are changing your intention and your reaction.
It’s hard to create these boundaries in life because you want something and you know it’s negative for you. You struggle to see the truth. It’s easy to deny what our soul is trying to show us, but if you stop for a second and ask yourself if you are happy in a situation and hesitate for a second to respond “yes”, then you may need to evaluate what is holding you there.
Fear is usually the culprit for unhappiness… we are afraid of something! This gets back to intention. Face your fears. Look them in the eye, with a big F-You and take back your power! Set up a new plan and take a new route.
Lastly, Patience is your friend! We all want, what we want on our terms, in our time and when we don’t get it we get angry… which creates a place of resistance and alters your intention. Stay grounded and centered, and be patient. What you want will come in it’s time… and part of this patience is allowing yourself room to mess up, to be blind, to have to reroute yourself.
Don’t ever regret losing sight of your boundaries… it happens to everyone. What matters is that your eyes have been opened and you are working to better the situation. Get bold gypsies, say what you need to say and be fearless!
And don’t be afraid to reward yourself!
© Shaheen Miro